Everyone who has been affected knows the scene. And all those who might be affected need to know.
Often, the first sign that something is awry is the delivery of a ‘NonMol’, as they are known. The terms vary, but they usually forbid communication with the other party, usually the mother, going within a range of her home or other places she might be. Sometimes this includes the school the children attend. Contact with our children is sometimes forbidden too, amongst other things.
Breaching a Nonmol is a criminal offence which involves immediate arrest. In the worst cases, the mother invites the father to discuss things, he responds, and gets taken into custody.